I made a lot of mistakes in 2013. And I loved every one of them.
My definition of a “mistake”: something that happened either voluntarily or completely by chance that did not work out as planned, yet taught me an incredible lesson.
Mistakes are beautiful to me, primarily because they give me new perspective. Here are 10 mistakes that I made this year that I hope you can learn from, or at the very least, relate to:
1. Date someone “wrong” for you:
I certainly had my fair share of… interesting… dates in 2013. I challenged my own norm in terms of age, personality types, physical appearance and everything in between. Did any of these wacky dates turn into the love of my life? No. But they challenged me, made me think outside of the box, and gave me some hilarious stories to tell at the bar.
The lesson? If you’re single, look at dating new people as an opportunity to learn something about yourself that you wouldn’t have otherwise known. If you’re taken, feel free to play cupid and send me the love of my life. Thanks.
2. Let your health hit the wall:
I added a lot onto my plate this year. And I mean that both metaphorically and quite literally. As I added commitments, I simultaneously disregarded my healthy eating habits and more often than not chose to eat based on what was convenient with my crazy schedule and lack of effort.
The lesson? Sometimes you need to fall down in order to realize how important getting back up is. Take care of your body. It’s the only one you’ve got.
3. Say yes to absolutely everything:
This mistake of mine drove me insane in 2013, mostly in a good way. Every time someone proposed an opportunity, favor or inkling of a fun adventure to me, I said yes. While I do not regret a single time I agreed to these situations, I think I finally realized that learning to say “no” can be just as valuable.
The lesson? It’s important to evaluate what you’re committing to before you agree to it.
4. Reignite an old flame:
This one is a doozy. Reigniting an old flame, to me, has always been a mistake. Not only are you a different person than who you were when you first dated someone, but there was a reason it ended. Yet sometimes you have to reignite a flame in order to put it out once and for all. Just don’t be an idiot and reignite it more than once.
The lesson? Playing with fire does nothing but burn you.
5. Call it how you see it:
I view this one as a mistake and a blessing at the same time. I’m always going to be a straight shooter. It’s just how I’m programmed. Yet this year I realized that I wouldn’t have to be as direct about how I felt if I didn’t let myself get so wrapped up into a situation in the first place.
The lesson? Say what you mean as soon as you’re sure of it. Don’t wait to let it escalate into a trickier situation than it needs to be.
6. Don’t make time for your oldest friends:
Like I’ve made note of before, I made mistakes when it came to my friendships this past year. I relied on past history to make old, very worthwhile friendships last, and that is no recipe for a successful relationship. Fortunately they weren’t too far gone to fix.
The lesson? Invest in the relationships that mean something to you. It’s that simple.
7. Spend money on things that don’t matter:
Like most twenty-somethings, I fell victim to being an idiot with some of my finances this year. The past few months I have become hyper-aware of this, and after saving and booking two trips for this February, I felt a sense of accomplishment that I want to continue.
The lesson? Donate clothes you don’t wear, be creative with your income, save your money for experiences and investments that matter, and stop going out to eat so much.
8. Snooze your life away:
The lesson? Suck it up and get out of bed. The day is going to go on whether you’re a part of it or not, so you may as well kick its ass and be productive. Except on Sundays…
9. Put your eggs in one basket:
The lesson? While it can be exhausting (like everything else in life that’s worthwhile) it’s important to consider all options, especially ones that scare the living daylights out of you.
And my favorite mistake of all that I hope to make again and again…
10. Fall flat on your face in love with serendipity:
Some of my absolute favorite mistakes this year happened when I least expected them to. They threw my original plans completely off course, changed everything else I had lined up, shook my faith and made me wonder what the hell I was supposed to do. It was scary. I messed up. I second guessed myself. And I loved it.
The lesson? When something sneaks up on you and tugs on your heartstrings in the best of ways, don’t be a fool and let it pass you by. Embrace it. Challenge it. Fall in love with it.
2013, you’ve been quite the roller coaster ride that I forgot to wear my seatbelt on.
2014, bring it on, baby.