We wouldn’t be able to move on from some of life’s most exhausting experiences if the world went ahead and said: Alright. It’s been pretty tough lately; let me slow down and accommodate to you and your needs. There, there; it will all be okay in the end.
The fact that the world doesn’t stop, or even slow down for that matter, is exactly what keeps us from stopping. It forces us to keep pushing forward even when the only thing we want to do is completely shut down and freeze for awhile.
I bet each and every one of us can think of a string of occurrences where it was just one blow after the next; one more you’ve got to be kidding me right now; one more what the hell am I going to do next? And ya know what? Life will never stop giving us circumstances in which we have no choice but to accommodate and refocus, buckle up and keep going. I may be a true optimist at heart, but I am not naive to the troubling circumstances that each person is susceptible to.
There’s annoyance and pain in the fact that life kicks you in the ass over and over again and doesn’t stop. It’s a stressor that can eat you alive if you don’t find ways to balance it out and shift your focus to what’s still good in the world.
Yet if you’re willing to look around you just a little more intently, you’ll see that there’s beauty in that god-awful frustration. Life is always going to knock you around and try to break you, the least you can do for yourself is fight back.
“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin—real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way. Something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.“
—FR. ALFRED D’SOUZA